6 Tricks to Calm Temper Tantrums in Toddlers

Does your child cry and kick his feet as he falls to the ground? Well, you are not alone. All children have temper tantrums. 

Children learn how to deal with the problems of everyday life during their early years. Every day, they’re learning and practicing new skills. It might lead to some uneasy, overwhelming feelings. These strong emotions can erupt into temper tantrums if they cannot express themselves.

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  By: Brookelyn Simms

  Updated: January 25, 2022

What is a temper tantrum?

A temper tantrum is a young child’s expression of displeasure or rage at not attaining what they want. Perhaps he is having difficulty understanding or completing a job. Maybe he lacks the vocabulary to describe their emotions. Frustration can lead to an outburst, leading to a temper tantrum.

Temper tantrums begin at the age of one year. They last till the child is between the ages of 2 and 3. It will become less frequent as they age.

What causes temper tantrums?

A variety of factors usually causes tantrums. Here are some of the most common reasons for your toddler’s tantrum:


  1. 1. Your child is hungry. Your child’s tantrum is maybe because of hunger. Feeding them will usually put a stop to their outburst.
  1. 2. Your child is tired. When toddlers are tired, they have difficulty expressing their feelings, leading to tantrums. If your child is exhausted and throwing a tantrum, you may notice that they are slow and irritated.
  1. 3. Your child is irritated. When a child is irritated, they may throw a tantrum. Bright lights or loud noises may lead your toddler to become irritated. They may cover their eyes or put their hands over their ears if this is the case.
  1. 4. Your child is frustrated. Frustration is a primary reason many toddlers throw tantrums. It could be because you said no or because they want a toy. You may ignore their tantrums in these situations. They’ll pass as soon as their focus changes to anything else.
  1. 5. Your child is begging for your attention. Another typical reason for tantrums in toddlers is that they want your attention. They may request that you pick them up or spend some time cuddling them. Simply doing so may be enough to calm them down.

Dealing with temper tantrums might be embarrassing and stressful. But you can manage temper tantrums with a bit of patience and determination on your part. Here are some tricks that might help you calm your child’s temper tantrum.

1. Keep Calm and Do Not Yell

Keeping your temper in check is the first step in resolving a temper tantrum. Spanking your child is also not a good idea since it will simply worsen the tantrum. Take a deep breath and get control of your emotions before disciplining your child. Reassure them that tantrums are not appropriate behavior. Keep in mind that you are your child’s role model when dealing with rage. Your child will equal your volume if you scream because they want to interact with you. It could help you stay calm if you remember that they’re frustrated or depressed.

2. Use Distractions

You can avoid toddler tantrums by using simple distractions. Parents may stop the process by addressing the problem when a temper tantrum begins. Allow the toddler to play with another item (but not the one she wanted) you can try toys such as rocking horses, trains, or other colorful toys. You can also sing a goofy song to divert the child’s attention and pique her interest. Before emotions reach a boiling point, use simple questions and distractions.

3. Ignore the Tantrum

Ignore the tantrum even if you have to take your screaming toddler through the supermarket. It’s easier said than done. But if you stick to your guns, the time will pass, and they’ll realize you’re serious, and this isn’t going to work. Your child will stop once they learn their temper tantrum isn’t getting them anywhere.

4. Hug them

Hold your child tightly to calm them down if they are unhappy to the point of being inconsolable or out of control. Tell them you love them, but you’re not going to give them what they want in a gentle manner. Hugs provide children with a sense of security. It shows that you care about them, even if you disagree with their behavior. serious, and this isn’t going to work. Your child will stop once they learn their temper tantrum isn’t getting them anywhere.

5. Teach them vocabulary and language skills to express themselves properly

Go over what happened with your child when the dust has cleared. Make sure that she has fully de-escalated from her acute emotional state. Teach her how to express herself the next time she needs something. Teach her how to communicate effectively. Teach her how to express herself with words rather than flinging things. 

provide children with a sense of security. It shows that you care about them, even if you disagree with their behavior. serious, and this isn’t going to work. Your child will stop once they learn their temper tantrum isn’t getting them anywhere.

6. Keep an eye out for HALT:

  • 1. H- Hunger
  • 2. A – Anger
  • 3. L – Lonely
  • 4. T – Tired

 To prevent tantrum traps, create a sleep-eat-rest schedule. Know your child will throw tantrums if they don’t get anything. So plan and provide alternatives or distractions. It’s far easier to prevent temper tantrums than to put them out once they have begun.

When should I worry about temper tantrums?

Watch out for temper tantrums that are becoming more severe and lasting longer. Or tantrums that occur many times per day and regularly happen in a kid older than five. In that case, it may be time to consult with your pediatrician or seek help from a psychologist. Also, if your child is harming himself or others, see your pediatrician at once. 

Parenting is a difficult job. If you’re worried about your stress level or unsure how to handle the tantrums, it’s time to get help.

Final Word

Temper tantrums are an unavoidable part of a child’s development. It occurs due to children’s needs while still seeking parental attention, though this may be different to children with special needs.


Young children cannot also communicate their emotions verbally. Try to remain calm when temper outbursts occur. We know it isn’t easy, but it’s important to keep your cool. Tantrums fade as children mature and better understand their emotions and communication skills.


For additional support with your toddler, you can speak with our guidance counsellor at Reach Educational Services.

Meet The Author

Brookelyn is a mom of gorgeous twin girls. She loves all things nutrition and healthy living. When she isn’t working on Super Mom Picks you will find her brewing her very own kombucha tea at home! 

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